Family update

My last post was about my frustration with my Dad and I feel bad about the vent now that I have spent the day with Xavier, at my Mum and Dad's house and found out a few things about what is going on in their world right now. Apparently my sister has been in trouble again and has had to go back to court. They have been quite devastated about it. You might remember that when I was pregnant with Xavier - just 3 weeks before he was due - my sister was arrested for stealing money from her work. A few months later she had to appear in court where she plead guilty to theft charges and supposedly had learnt her lesson. Mum and Dad were absolutely gutted over it. Mum was in tears constantly when the arrest happened. Because I was already struggling with blood pressure problems among other things in the pregnancy, Joel and I think the stress that this caused everyone was one of the contributing factors towards me having to be placed in hospital 2 days after my sister was arrested. I was having trouble sleeping, my mum was bursting into tears every two minutes, and then I went to my OB appointment and found my blood pressure was at a dangerous level and I got admitted to hospital where I stayed til Xavier was born. So now we were very disappointed to learn that recently my sister apparently had to make another court appearance for welfare cheating. Apparently she was declaring things that weren't true to gain more money. When I was over at my parents house today my mum had to go to the store to get a few things and Xavier was having a nap, so my dad and I got to spend some time together alone. He started talking and really opening up about all the stuff they have gone through with my sister and how much he is hurt and distraught over it. He doesn't really open up much about feelings so this was a rare insight into his mind. He said he is ashamed of my sister's actions and doesn't know where he went wrong with her. He misses her children (his grandchildren obviously) because as I have mentioned before, we now don't get to see them and havent for the last 2 years. He said lately he has been having trouble sleeping as he has been dreaming of the children - nothing bad just that they are visiting and spending time with my mum and dad, and then he wakes up again and misses them. He then said that as much as he dislikes my sister's ex, he is glad the kids are with him because when they were with my sister they weren't treated like kids should be. At least now they have a stable home and all the necessities they need in life. Dad said if he has to sacrifice seeing them in order for their life to be better by living with their dad then that is what he thinks should happen. I felt so sad for my Dad and never realised how depressed he has been over all the stuff that has happened. I guess that could be why he is taking things so hard with Xavier. He probably doesn't want to think about anything being wrong. He just wants to believe everything is perfect with Xavier because in his mind I guess it probably is.